The Empty Promise of Promiscuity

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Thursday, April 23, 2015

The Empty Promise of Promiscuity

Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."1

"Recently I've become promiscuous," began 20-year-old Ellen's sad email. "I've been boy crazy for as long as I can remember. My father left my life when I was twelve. My mom worked long hours and had little time for my brother and me after our parents divorced. I don't understand why I feel I can't function without a significant other in my life. I had a baby when I was 16, married at 17, and now I'm 20 and divorced. I'm searching for a 'soul mate' and I'm in love with the idea of love. It's ruining my morals and my values. I feel empty. Can you help?"

The above message was sent to a counselor friend of mine, Dr. Bruce Narramore. Tragically, situations like this in today's permissive society are far too common where so many lonely people seek to fill the empty void and hunger in their heart with false substitutes such as meaningless sex and empty relationships—both of which serve only to increase their sense of despair.

Bruce said, "I encouraged Ellen to seek help to gain an understanding of some of the causes of her problems. I pointed out how the void left by losing her dad and mom programmed her to feel an unusually deep need for human connection which was probably the driving force behind her promiscuity and excessive need for a man in her life. I also told her she could never fill the void coming from those childhood losses through a sexual relationship or even through marriage. We can't fill childhood voids with adult relationships. That is like pouring water through sand. The water is temporarily cooling but soon vanishes. If Ellen doesn't reverse this pattern, she will go through life trying to find the parents she lost through one tragic relationship after another.

"Ironically, not until Ellen becomes emotionally and spiritually strong enough to live without a man will she be ready for a healthy relationship. At that point she will be a mature adult ready for an adult relationship, rather than an emotional child searching for a lost daddy. And she will no longer 'be in love with the idea of love' which is simply a childish fantasy. Instead, she will be ready to love and be loved by a real person."2

Fortunately, Ellen admitted that she had a problem and needed help. She did seek counseling to help her resolve her childhood losses. We trust that she is now well on the road to recovery and ready for healthy relationships. Ellen's situation is a reminder to all who have unresolved losses that they also need to resolve their losses so they can get off the endless merry-go-round of seeking to fill the empty void in their heart by looking for love in all the wrong faces and places and by trying to fill their void with "things" instead of healthy relationships.

Suggested prayer: "Dear God, please help me to admit to any unhealthy relationships and/or behaviors in my life, see the cause/s of these, and find the help I need to overcome so that I will grow in maturity and learn to fully live and fully love so my life will be a clean channel through which Your love can flow to others. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus's name, amen."

1. Matthew 11:28 (NIV).
2. Narramore, Bruce, Project Letter of the Narramore Christian Foundation.

Source: http://www.actsweb.org/daily.php?id=1704






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2015 Elections Exposed the Fake Pastors and False Prophets in Nigeria

 
The 2015 elections exposed the fake pastors and false prophets in Nigeria.

Majority of them prophesied that incumbent President Goodluck Jonathan was going to win without palaver and the others prophesied that the 2015 presidential election would end up like the ill-fated June 12 presidential election of 1993 that was clearly won by the late Chief Moshood Kashimawo Olawale Abiola of the Social Democratic Party (SDP), who defeated Bashir Tofa of the National Republican Convention (NRC), but annulled by the military head of state, Gen. Ibrahim Badamasi Babangida who is now one of the founding fathers and leaders of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP). They never expected the PDP to lose the presidential election to the formidable opposition party, All Progressives Congress (APC), because they concluded that the presidential flag bearer of the APC, Gen. Muhammadu Buhari (retd) was not a match for the ruling President Jonathan since no incumbent President has ever lost in previous presidential elections in Nigeria. But they forgot that only the Almighty God knows the future of all things He has created and all powers belongs to Him as it is written:

1 God hath spoken once; twice have I heard this; that power belongeth unto God.

12 Also unto thee, O Lord, belongeth mercy: for thou renderest to every man according to his work.
◄ Psalm 62:11-12. ►, King James Version (KJV)

Of all the news and politics bloggers in Nigeria, I am the only one who was shown the victory of Gen. Muhammadu Buhari (retd) in a dream as I have chronicled in my new book "The Victory of Muhammadu Buhari and the Nigerian Dream: My Testimony on the 2015 Presidential Election"to be released on May 29, 2015.

RECOMMENDED BOOK BY EKENYERENGOZI MICHAEL CHIMA

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Two Days that Changed the World

Monday, April 6, 2015

Two Days that Changed the World

"But he [Jesus] was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement [punishment] for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed."1

G. Franklin Allee wrote how, "Years ago, a young mother was making her way across the hills of South Wales, carrying her tiny babe in her arms when she was overtaken by a blinding blizzard. She never reached her destination alive, and when the blizzard subsided her body was found beneath the snow. But the searchers discovered that before her death she had taken off all her outer clothing and wrapped it about her baby. And when they unwrapped the child, to their great surprise and joy, they found he was alive and well. She had given her life for her child, proving the depth of her mother love.

"Years later that child, David Lloyd George, when grown to manhood, became prime minister of the United Kingdom, and without doubt was one of Britain's greatest statesmen. The UK was a better place for a time because a mother gave her life for her son."

On a much greater scale the world today is a better place because on Good Friday 2,000 years God the Father gave his Son, Jesus Christ, to die on a cruel Roman cross to pay the penalty for the sins of all mankind. Thank God that includes you and me. And now, because of Jesus' death, all who put their trust in him will live forever in Heaven with God where there will be no more sickness, sadness, sorrow or death.

Thus Good Friday and Easter Sunday—when Jesus rose from the dead—are two days that changed the world forever.

Note: If you have never accepted Jesus as your Savior, be sure to read the article: "How to Know God and be sure you're a real Christian" at: http://www.actsweb.org/christian

Suggested prayer: "Dear God, how can I ever thank You enough for giving Your Son, Jesus, to die in my place on the cross. Because You died for me, Lord Jesus, I give my heart and life to live for You all the days of my life. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus's name, amen."

1. Isaiah 53:5 (NKJV).

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